Wednesday, January 16, 2019

Dysable the Enabler

Unfortunately today addictions of many kind are common in society. There must be many of us who are exposed to loved ones and friends dealing with addictions and maybe at one time we may have had our own story to tell. For some reason society has managed to create a need for drugs that is being filled and creating so many problems. We have fear now over drugs that kill as well as the "usual" fears around drug abuse. Being there as a support for others trying to conquer addiction is a place we may find our self in at some point in our lives. Unfortunately not everyone believes in rehabilitation centres so there have to be alternate paths to healing. We may make ourselves available to help someone but if we are not a drug counsellor or if we have not had the life experience our self we may have to be careful about how much help we can actually offer. When we try to help a family member, we could run into all types of unexpected problems because we may be just too close to the situation to see what is going on and what is truly needed. We may find ourselves trying to help someone with their drug issues and maybe we come to realize that we are not really helping at all. There is such a thin line between helping and enabling so it is a sticky, tricky path to walk. If you have someone who actually is being successful in overcoming drugs that you are helping, there is that chance that they may begin to see you as their Savior and that is a shaky path to walk upon.

When we choose to idolize another, we dig a hole for our self which is really hard to climb out of while we see another as our reason for being happy. I am not saying that you don't need someone who can help but when you become so attached to that other that you begin to idolize them, then there may by trouble ahead. If something happens where this person is no longer in your life, what will you do, how will you cope. Will life be worth living? The problem will continue to exist until you learn to recognize the Creator within you. You must learn to see the good within you that creates and manifests all that is in your life. Giving everything you are to another will eventually make you feel less, and brings about insecurities and doubts that you can actually be and do you on your own. Not only for you but for the one you choose to give your power away to. No one can live up to being put on a pedestal unless they truly are egotistical. It feels so good when someone recognizes the good within us and compliments us and thanks us but to constantly have to live up to the image of being "the great one" who fixes everything and everyone can bite deeply into ones self esteem as we try hard to live up to the image and think we have to continue to fix everything. It is so much easier at least for me when I give it back to the person by acknowledging that they are the ones that chose to heal and move forward in their life and they are the one doing the work to better their lives.

One way to bypass this dilemma of becoming an enabler is when your worshipper is giving you thanks for once again fixing them, to somehow mention the Creator, or God or the Goddess, whatever Higher Power that you and/or they believe in. Pass the thanks in that direction and encourage the other to give thanks to their Source. Connecting with our Source, our Higher Power is a healthy way of letting go of any addictive problem whether it be mental, physical, or spiritual. Give them back their power in some way and let them know that it is with the guidance of the Creator that their healing was made possible. Encourage them to have faith and to believe in not only themselves but the power of the Universe to provide them with what they need at any given time.

Embracing the Divine within is being able to see and feel the light within us, that place where creativity and goodness exists, that place of healing. When we connect with and hold on to that feeling we experience the true love that we have for our self and are able to share this with those around us. This is where self hatred and fear melts away, where we can find that familiar place within that we call home. So just try to make it a daily practise to give thanks to the Creator for your life and your dreams, passions and that which make up your daily routine and each day you will feel more satisfied, more fulfilled with this gratitude.

Monday, January 7, 2019

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The Power of Silence

“The silence was so thick I could cut it with a knife.” This is the thought running through my mind as I focus on silence. I have been working towards silence for the past 6 months. Today is January 1, 2019 and I participated in the most uplifting medication on my quest towards inner silence. The one thing that I had become comfortable with while living on the Sunshine Coast was inner peace, or so I thought at the time. Upon arriving and living in the city I found it difficult to find that level of inner peace so obviously it was just a quick fix that I had discovered, like a bandage on a cut. For some time before now while seeking inner peace I reached for silence and could actually feel it around me as I reached out for it, but it always felt a bit heavy. Today when meditating I decided to lighten up the energy of silence and realized the heaviness that I experienced was actually the weight of my thoughts and emotions but the silence itself was weightless. I focused on this weightlessness and felt thoughts and emotions slowly rising with it and with this in mind I focused more on the weightlessness. It was a very enlightening and powerful meditation and is now going to be one of the biggest lessons I have to learn. Now in order to maintain and accomplish my goal, I have to constantly let go and lighten up my thoughts and emotions to hold the bit of space I managed to surrender to with my hour meditation.

Every lesson is a struggle at first, but with resilience and the will to carry on, I eventually will reach my goals. Walking the Path of the Goddess is not always an easy one but I love where it leads me on this journey. Every choice I make is about being more connected to Source, about being empowered and holding this energy out in the world to attract and show others walking and seeking the Path. Many do not know what it is they seek but most of us are searching for personal power. We all want to feel that we have control of our life, our environment and I have discovered that the only way to have control is to not try so hard to be in control. The best way to do this is to learn how to have a strong sense of how our environment is flowing and become a part of that flow. Once we manage how to flow with our environment, our thoughts and desires will manage what and who flows towards us: The Law of Attraction.

I believe that when I truly reach a comfortable place of inner silence, one that I can hold without struggle, I will become a more powerful tool for the Law of Attraction because my thoughts will be more pure in form without all the clutter and unconscious motives feeding them. In the world today there are a lot of young motivational keynote speakers encouraging us to have a daily routine set up to manifest our goals into fruition. Some of them are so young and so full of energy and so wise and eager to share and I enjoy listening to them and remember when I was so young and so enthusiastic. I agree with some of what they are all saying and I look forward to seeing them mature and become who I see them becoming. I believe the world has a huge opportunity to be a better place because of them.

My style of personal empowerment is based upon a very spiritual foundation. I lean towards mentors like Deepak Chopra who shares information that I can relate to and sometimes I feel as though he has put into words what I have been sharing with people around me but he seems to express it with a deeper meaning for me. I believe that I am a “soul healer” and when I connect with people for readings and sessions I connect on a soul level. This is not always where people think they want to go because it’s not about all the “frills” in their lives, romance, finances, career, but about the fore-mentioned and also of others in direct relationships, barriers to their spiritual growth and paths to follow. When I feel resistance from them I find that place of quiet within me and I use my words to bring them to a place where they can listen as I weave the story for them that they came to hear and maybe did not really know. Everyone truly wants to hear the truth although they may be afraid of what that truth is. Sometimes when they express their fears I simply ask them “are you doing such terrible things in your life that you have to fear what I have to tell you?” No one has yet answered yes to that question. It’s the fear of the unknown, the fear of success and failure, the fear of lack that we may throw out in front of us when we think of our future that scares us. When we focus on believing in who we are and the power of the Universe, God/Goddess, Jesus, Ancestors, however we connect with our Higher Source and continue to reach for the tools we need to move forward on our journey we no longer have to hold on to fear if we use the tools on a daily basis.

Every day is a new beginning for us on our spiritual journey in life. Every day offers lessons, gifts, rewards and opportunities if we are open to them and especially if we stop making up scary stories about what lies ahead. I am using Silence as a tool to connect with the better part of me, you can use your own methods, meditations, prayers, yoga, whatever takes you inward to a place of peace to begin your day. From this place you can manifest whatever your heart’s desire without all the fuss and clutter of the material world.